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		<title>To eat, or to graduate, that&#8217;s the question they&#8217;re forcing me to answer.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:31:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A couple of years ago, my department began a seminar series, inviting academics from around the world to give talks about their research. I didn&#8217;t pay attention, because I wasn&#8217;t interested in spending my Friday afternoons listening to people talking about the minutiae of their research. The next year, the department instituted a degree requirement, forcing all&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2012/01/30/to-eat-or-to-graduate-thats-the-question-theyre-forcing-me-to-answer/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=972&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A couple of years ago, my department began a seminar series, inviting academics from around the world to give talks about their research. I didn&#8217;t pay attention, because I wasn&#8217;t interested in spending my Friday afternoons listening to people talking about the minutiae of their research.</p>
<p>The next year, the department instituted a degree requirement, forcing all new masters and PhD students to attend 70% of the seminars in the first two years of their program. To me, the series of unfortunate events were clear. The department had allotted lots of money to invite these speakers from around the world; the attendance was poor to the point of embarrassment, and so, to save the face of the chair, this requirement was instituted.</p>
<p>I attended grudgingly, silently protesting by bringing my computer with me to each seminar and spending the hour online shopping. I know this is immature, and unfair to the speaker. But really, when they&#8217;re talking about nano blah blah particles, I can sit there and stare blankly into space, or stare into my computer.</p>
<p>They monitor our attendance by requiring us to swipe our student cards at the door. The department hires a teaching assistant to enforce this.</p>
<p>Last year, I got a teaching assistantship whose tutorials directly conflicted with the seminars. I contacted the associate chair (the person who is administering the seminar series), and he said that I could make up for the requirement in a future term, or in the fall term of my third year.</p>
<p>Well, the winter term has come again, and I have taken the same TA position as last year. The same conflicts arose, and I contacted the associate chair again. The problem is that I have no more future terms to push the requirement onto. I&#8217;ve only got one full year left as a PhD student, which means that there isn&#8217;t another fall term! I told him that I did everything that was asked, and that he had even announced that conflicting TA-ships are legitimate reasons to postpone the seminar requirement.</p>
<p>He wrote back, telling me that I should not have taken the TA position. This TA position provides me with $3000 of income for the year. I prepped all of the work last year, and I would not be leveraging my time wisely if I didn&#8217;t teach it again. I want to be a lecturer in the future. TA positions give me practice. Sitting in a talk about nano blah blah particles doesn&#8217;t.</p>
<p>Thank you, department of X, for helping me get one step farther from feeding myself and professional development.</p>
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		<title>Useless things I learned in undergrad</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Nov 2011 20:25:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week, I was proctoring a midterm, and a student was identified as having his notes with him at his desk. As far as I can tell, he had no intention of cheating. He merely wanted to get a good look at his notes before the exam started, and then just placed his notes under&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/11/04/useless-things-i-learned-in-undergrad/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=968&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Last week, I was proctoring a midterm, and a student was identified as having his notes with him at his desk. As far as I can tell, he had no intention of cheating. He merely wanted to get a good look at his notes before the exam started, and then just placed his notes under his chair for the duration of the exam. Kind of like a security blanket. He made no attempt to hide his notes, and they certainly didn&#8217;t resemble any summary of content. It was a full notebook with regular-sized handwriting, in plain sight. But nobody noticed.</p>
<p>At the end of the exam, the professor saw the student as he got up from his desk, with his notes in hand. The situation was escalated to some sort of academic hearing, and he received a zero on his exam. He was found guilty of possessing an unauthorized aid or something.</p>
<p>He came to me to chat about the situation. Of course there was nothing I could do, but I was an ear who would listen and commiserate.</p>
<p>I sympathized with him, and coached him on how we have to take an active role in appearing innocent. When we come to an exam, bring a pencil, but don&#8217;t bring the pencil case. Bring a calculator, but don&#8217;t bring the calculator cover. I explained that we have to work to ensure that we don&#8217;t give the authorities any reason to suspect us. Then I realized, all those strategies I learned were useless now. Nobody cares any more. Exams are such artificial measures of knowledge and understanding. In the real world, you do the work, or you don&#8217;t. You use the resources that are available to you, or you don&#8217;t.</p>
<p>Yet another useless thing I learned in undergrad.</p>
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		<title>Pop Quiz Philosophy</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 14:50:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[This year marks the 4th time that I am a TA for course X. In the years that I&#8217;ve run the tutorials, frankly, not much has changed. I tweak things here and there, but most of the time, I solve the same problems that I solved 4 years ago. One aspect in particular are my&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/09/26/pop-quiz-philosophy/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=959&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This year marks the 4th time that I am a TA for course X.</p>
<p>In the years that I&#8217;ve run the tutorials, frankly, not much has changed. I tweak things here and there, but most of the time, I solve the same problems that I solved 4 years ago. One aspect in particular are my pop quizzes.</p>
<p>The professor for whom I teach mandated me to give pop quizzes, whose marks add up to 10% of students&#8217; final marks. She gave me free reign to choose the content, the difficulty, and even the number of quizzes that are given. When I first started as a TA for course X, I decided that I didn&#8217;t want to punish students for not understanding everything all the time, and that I wanted to reward students for attending the tutorials. As a result, the quizzes were easy: they were open-book, and they were on the content that was taught during that tutorial. What better way to reward students for coming to tutorial than to give them nearly-free marks?</p>
<p>But recently, I&#8217;m no longer certain about the motivation behind my pop quizzes. If you don&#8217;t need to attend tutorial, then is it really my place to force you to come so as not to lose 10%? Many students can benefit from seeing problems solved on the board, but it certainly isn&#8217;t going to reach all students. Why force them to stay? Okay, so now I need a new purpose for the pop quizzes&#8230;but by the very &#8220;pop&#8221; nature of them, really, it&#8217;s just a punitive device for not attending tutorials.</p>
<p>The only learning benefit I see is to get the students practicing the methods. I think it would make more sense to have un-weighted pop quizzes. Then they would get the benefit of practice, without forcing them to attend.</p>
<p>Alas, I&#8217;m not the instructor for this course, so I chug along&#8230;pop quizzing my students.</p>
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		<title>Asset Acquisition Anxiety</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Aug 2011 01:00:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In two weeks, I will be moving into my first home. I don&#8217;t quite own it, in that I did not pay for the down-payment, nor can I afford the monthly mortgage payments, but it is legally under my name, and supported by my parents. As a University of Waterloo graduate, I lived the life of&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/08/16/asset-acquisition-anxiety/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=950&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In two weeks, I will be moving into my first home. I don&#8217;t quite own it, in that I did not pay for the down-payment, nor can I afford the monthly mortgage payments, but it is legally under my name, and supported by my parents.</p>
<p>As a University of Waterloo graduate, I lived the life of a co-op student for five years, which meant being able to pack up my life and move to another city every 4 months (8 months for me, but same idea). This meant sleeping on mattresses without frames, folding chairs, plastic Rubbermaid tables doubling for desks. Your stuff needed to be portable, functional, easy to move, or easy to leave behind/sell.</p>
<p>Now the time has come to truly invest in my home, but I am being haunted by my past. There&#8217;s only two years left in my PhD program, and who knows what will happen then? Will I have to sell and move? Will I need to rent my condo out and rent elsewhere? If I do, do I really want to move my nice furniture? Or wouldn&#8217;t I prefer to leave behind cheaper furniture for my tenant?</p>
<p>I also have this fear of stuff accumulating and becoming a burden. You know that mouse option in Windows when you can have a trail of pointers? That&#8217;s what I feel about stuff. A laggy draggy thing that follows you around that you can&#8217;t get rid of. I don&#8217;t even know how to dispose of an old computer. How on earth do I offload a couch?</p>
<p>That, and everything I own eventually becomes garbage. Whether it&#8217;s a consumable or a capital good, doesn&#8217;t the book value of everything eventually reach zero (except land)?</p>
<p>So with 10 sleeps until moving day, I wander Corningware and Ikea, picking things up, and putting them down; picking things up, and putting them down. Even the fact that my mom is giving me so much of her <em>brand new, unused </em>housewares is making me nervous.</p>
<p>We <em>all</em> have too much crap.</p>
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		<title>Copyright for You and Me &#8211; My censored post</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:06:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As I mentioned in my last post, I wrote an informational piece on how copyright is relevant for post-secondary students, even if we aren&#8217;t writing novels and recording music. It was censored, so I&#8217;m posting it on my own blog. I don&#8217;t think there was sufficient cause for censorship, but oh well. This post is&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/04/11/copyright-for-you-and-me-my-censored-post/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=934&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As I mentioned in my last post, I wrote an informational piece on how copyright is relevant for post-secondary students, even if we aren&#8217;t writing novels and recording music. It was censored, so I&#8217;m posting it on my own blog. I don&#8217;t think there was sufficient cause for censorship, but oh well.</p>
<p>This post is based on just one day of casual research. None of it should be taken as legal advice! Think of it more as a motivator to stand up for yourself.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">I always thought that copyrights were something for people who were writing books, or recording music. Never did I think that it was something that would affect me, unless it was from the perspective of potentially violating a copyright.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">In fact, it’s something that’s quite important for students. Did you know that all of the original content that you produce is automatically copyrighted? When you write a paper for a class, or freelance as a blogger, your content belongs to you. Regardless of whether you remember to put that little © on your work, it’s yours to do with as you wish. But not everyone will let you believe it.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">Have you heard of TurnItIn? When I was an undergraduate student, I was required to submit my work to turnitin.com. In my naïveté, I was eager to prove that my work was original, and didn’t consider that I lost rights to my intellectual property when I submitted my work. As I started grad school, I realized that I wanted to get my papers back. Turnitin made it impossible for me to get my work back, and I had to give up on my quest. What if I had written something novel that I wanted to use in my graduate research? Instructors may have you believe that such a submission is mandatory, but it may be worth asking them if you might retain the rights to your work, and they might do their due diligence in checking for originality.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">An interesting concept is being paid to write, i.e. freelancing. If you’re paid, does that mean you don’t own your work? Nowadays with the prevalence of blogs and e-zines, everyone and their uncles are freelancing. A reputable organization ought to have clear policies on how they will treat your intellectual property. If they don’t, remember: unless you’ve signed away your copyright, your content is automatically copyrighted to you. Can the executive editor change your work without telling you? Yes and no. This part of the act is a grey area. Has your work been distorted, mutilated or modified to the prejudice of your honour or reputation? Have they introduced errors to your writing? Check out the moral rights section of the act to decide for yourself.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">It is definitely not a clear cut law, and it has lots of grey areas! Not to mention, most of the layman versions are American, so they’re all based on US law, not the Canadian one. Just ask a lot of questions, remember that your work is more valuable than you think, and protect it like it is!</p>
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		<title>Why I will no longer be contributing to Hart House Blog</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Mar 2011 21:26:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you follow me on Twitter, you may know that I&#8217;ve been a Hart House blogger since the new year. I like blogging, I am passionate about student life, and I have a lot of personal ties to Hart House, so it made a lot of sense to blog for them. I was getting paid&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/03/31/why-i-will-no-longer-be-contributing-to-hart-house-blog/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=924&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you follow me on Twitter, you may know that I&#8217;ve been a Hart House blogger since the new year. I like blogging, I am passionate about student life, and I have a lot of personal ties to Hart House, so it made a lot of sense to blog for them. I was getting paid to do something that I did anyway, so it seemed like a great idea!</p>
<p>Within the next few months, I blogged as I normally would, but tried to put a student-oriented spin to my content. It was nice to have a larger platform on which to say what I always said, so I put a lot of effort into my posts in hopes that people would be drawn to read my posts out of the many other student bloggers on the blog.</p>
<p>Being a rather controversial person, I fully expected to experience censorship, and several times, my posts came back to me. I happily complied, realizing that it was a blog that was inextricably tied to a university&#8230;until one day, as I was reading one of my posts online, I noticed that my writing had been&#8230;DEFILED.</p>
<p>Okay, that&#8217;s an exaggeration. There had been major edits to my work without my knowledge or permission, prior to publishing it under my name. I noticed that they had made a few grammatical corrections, but they had also <em>introduced</em> grammatical errors, and changed the meanings of the things that I had written.</p>
<p>I contacted the editor immediately, asking what had happened, and she responded tersely that as a paid contributor (To be clear, I&#8217;m a freelancer, I don&#8217;t work for hire.), my writing was subject to edits without notice.</p>
<p>I spent the day trying to figure out the difference between editing and a violation of my rights. Even if my work can be edited, do I get to sign off on the final version of it? I actually couldn&#8217;t find most of the information, and I realized that one of the problems was that Hart House Blog hadn&#8217;t provided a policy for our work. Ironically, I had put in my to-do list an item to find out who retained the copyright to my posts, but had put it on the back burner, considering it a low-priority task.</p>
<p>I took a good look at the moral rights section of Canada&#8217;s copyright act, and I couldn&#8217;t quite resolve the issue. After all, it was clear that the editor had <em>intended</em> to &#8220;clean up&#8221; my writing. It was just unfortunate that the editing staff seemed to lack a strong grasp of grammar, and just omitted terms they were unfamiliar with, rather than doing their job and finding out what it meant. I felt that publishing my post riddled with typos, sentence fragments and incomplete thoughts <em>that were not originally there,</em> did indeed fall under distorting, mutilating or modifying my work to the prejudice of my honour or reputation (<a href="http://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/C-42/page-20.html#h-22">Copyright Act section 28</a>), but of course I wasn&#8217;t going to pursue a lawsuit.</p>
<p>I decided to take the path of least resistance, and I asked the editor to revert some of the changes that they had made to my latest post, and explained each error that they had made. And since I didn&#8217;t want to just lie down and take it, I wrote a snappy piece on copyright, and how it&#8217;s relevant to post secondary students. The editor (understandably) refused to publish it, and suggested that I stop writing for them if I was uncomfortable with the editing.</p>
<p>Honestly, I&#8217;m not uncomfortable with my work being edited to genuinely clean up my writing. It&#8217;s just when the changes are so heavy-handed that it takes away from the true intention of my post, and when they <em>add</em> errors that I get upset.</p>
<p>Anyway, that&#8217;s the very long story of why I&#8217;ve stopped blogging for Hart House. Thanks for reading.</p>
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		<title>When two type-As date</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:04:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My boyfriend and I are both type-A. I never thought I&#8217;d date another type-A, because I&#8217;m pretty extreme on the type-A scale, and thus have found every other type-A guy sorta douchy and unbearable. Alas, here we are: two super-productive, super-involved, super-busy people, trying to squeeze a relationship into our overloaded lives. Well, we&#8217;re squeezing,&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/02/16/when-two-type-as-date/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=901&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My boyfriend and I are both type-A. I never thought I&#8217;d date another type-A, because I&#8217;m pretty extreme on the type-A scale, and thus have found every other type-A guy sorta douchy and unbearable. Alas, here we are: two super-productive, super-involved, super-busy people, trying to squeeze a relationship into our overloaded lives.</p>
<p>Well, we&#8217;re squeezing, and here&#8217;s what I&#8217;ve noticed: we barely have time for each other.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m the one that can never commit to a date. He&#8217;s the one that&#8217;s always on the way out. Every time we&#8217;re together, I feel the time pressure. &#8216;This is nice, but&#8230;I should really be working on that paper.&#8217; &#8216;I really want to talk to him about this, but he needs to get started on that assignment.&#8217;</p>
<p>We both live lives so full that things have got to give, and as we start to take each other for granted, it&#8217;s time together that we&#8217;re giving up. Okay, I&#8217;m being unfair. I&#8217;m the proponent of giving time up, while he tries to over extend himself. Not a sustainable situation, in any way, shape, or form.</p>
<p>How do people do it? Does it survive in the long run? Can two type-As really be together, or are we destined to settle for a supporter-type who is not half as ambitious?</p>
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		<title>Alex Pangman @ the Reservoir Lounge</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 10 Jan 2011 00:21:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[An old friend of mine and I went to see Alex Pangman and her Alleycats on an impromptu dinner date. I decided to bring my boyfriend&#8217;s camera with me to see what I could do. It turns out you have to take about a hundred pictures to get one good one. I wish I had&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/01/09/alex-pangman-the-reservoir-lounge/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=878&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p><a title="photo sharing" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/26619679@N00/5335732485/"><img class="alignright" style="border:2px solid #000000;" src="http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5090/5335732485_6e93721197_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="160" /></a>An old friend of mine and I went to see Alex Pangman and her Alleycats on an impromptu dinner date.  I decided to bring my boyfriend&#8217;s camera with me to see what I could do.  It turns out you have to take about a hundred pictures to get one good one.</p>
<p>I wish I had gotten more of her face, but I love this picture anyway.  She&#8217;s singing with the doorman.  He had an awesome voice, but I can&#8217;t remember his name!</p>
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		<title>Why women say they&#8217;re &#8220;fine&#8221; when they&#8217;re not</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Jan 2011 02:56:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jysung</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You KNOW you do it.  Or, you know you&#8217;ve had it done to you. Okay, so I like to pretend that I don&#8217;t do it, but I know that it&#8217;s a lie.  Let&#8217;s face the music and try to enlighten our men, just a little bit. Sometimes, when expectations aren&#8217;t met, you doubt yourself for&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2011/01/05/why-women-say-theyre-fine-when-theyre-not/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=872&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You KNOW you do it.  Or, you know you&#8217;ve had it done to you.</p>
<p>Okay, so I like to pretend that I don&#8217;t do it, but I know that it&#8217;s a lie.  Let&#8217;s face the music and try to enlighten our men, just a little bit.</p>
<p>Sometimes, when expectations aren&#8217;t met, you doubt yourself for having them.  Then you feel like the reason you&#8217;re upset is unjustified, and you feel embarassed for feeling upset.  I also fear that if I did share my reasons, that I would appear petty, and seem more work than I&#8217;m worth.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t mean I don&#8217;t want to be appeased.  I&#8217;m still upset, and I do want to be consoled.  I just don&#8217;t want to be judged for feeling bad.  Like it says in that book <a class="zem_slink" title="Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_Are_from_Mars%2C_Women_Are_from_Venus">Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus</a>, women need to have their feelings validated.  But hey, I know what world we live in, so sometimes I just keep it in, to minimize the risk of invalidation.</p>
<p>Hey, optimality again: minimization!</p>
<p>Sadly, I&#8217;m not sure that I can give advice beyond insight.  I don&#8217;t think there&#8217;s anything you can actually do to make it better, boys.  Just keep trying until she decides to give in.</p>
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		<title>No, I have not had plastic surgery</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The past year has been a little interesting for me.  I sort of underwent a makeover year, where I dropped a noticeable chunk of weight, and was strongly encouraged by my mother to start dressing for my age.  I got a little better with my makeup, and of course, people noticed.  I didn&#8217;t really get&#160;&#8230; <a href="http://mincostflow.wordpress.com/2010/12/21/no-i-have-not-had-plastic-surgery/">Read&#160;more</a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=mincostflow.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4327368&amp;post=854&amp;subd=mincostflow&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The past year has been a little interesting for me.  I sort of underwent a makeover year, where I dropped a noticeable chunk of weight, and was strongly encouraged by my mother to start dressing for my age.  I got a little better with my makeup, and of course, people noticed.  I didn&#8217;t really get too much feedback form most of the people in my life, but I got LOTS of feedback from my Korean-Canadian church members.</p>
<p>EVERY WEEK, &#8220;Janet, you look great these days!&#8221; &#8220;Janet, you look so pretty, I hardly recognize you!&#8221; &#8220;Janet, why are you getting so beautiful?&#8221;</p>
<p>It actually got to the point where they stopped being compliments and started being veiled insults.  Really?  Just how ugly was I?</p>
<p>Then finally, this Sunday someone REALLY went too far.  She said &#8220;Janet, you&#8217;re looking more beautiful every week.  Did you have plastic surgery?&#8221;</p>
<p>What?  In what world is that an appropriate thing to ask?  Okay, the thing is, it&#8217;s actually a compliment when it comes from Koreans.  Yes, we are cosmetic surgery crazy.  All we care about is the finished product, and not how we got there.  I guess that explains a lot of other things about the culture, like the rampant cheating in my tutorials.</p>
<p>However, I haven&#8217;t been able to find the fundamental difference between expert application of makeup, and surgery.  It&#8217;s just different degrees of artificial beauty.  So why is it that I find joy in wearing beautiful makeup, and consider myself too good for surgery?</p>
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